What’s going on church? How y’all living? How y’all mama and daddy? Husband and wives doing?
Church it has been brought to my attention that there are some people out there in the congregation can’t keep their hands to themselves. Smh. I am going to need y’all to get it together in real life.
Before I go into the topic I just want put out my disclaimer. This is something that I prayed on and it is also something that I have studied. I have had a few conversations with a variety of people. Lastly, it is merely my opinion. You do not necessarily have to agree with me but do so in a constructive manor. I am not trying to tell you how to live your life as Christian on this earth, I am just merely giving you the information to make a more informed choice. This question was asked to me by a young woman who is curious. I am going to call her Betty Jo.
Church help me to understand why as we go forth on this good ol’ Christian journey, there are still some folks that are still unsure about their walk and where their hands should go. Sister Betty Jo stopped me after church(sent an email) and laid down her story to me. She said, she has only been saved a few years but before she decided to rededicate her life to Christ, she was a fornicator. And boy did she let me know how much she loved sex. Her sins, are not why we are here today church. Sister Betty Jo, says that lately the devil has been trying to bring her down. Now that she is celibate; temptation is all around her coming at her with a vengeance. She wants to stay on her path but she feels that there has to be something that can help her ease the edge off of her arousal. Sister Betty Jo says she has all kinds of sex toys and has occasionally thought about touching herself. She wants to know is it ok to masturbate and if it isn’t where can she find proof?
Well Sister Betty Jo, I am here today to let you know we are praying for you. And I hope my words will help clarify and give you the proof that you are seeking to help you run this good ol’ Christian race. And also, I think this will help you:
“These were more fair-minded than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness, and searched the scriptures daily to find out whether these things were so.” -Acts 17:11 (NKJV)
Let me start by asking you a question church? When its cold at night do you think it is ok to masturbate/ play with yourself? Let that marinate a while. For my married people out there, has there been in new baby in the house? Men: maybe your wife is giving all her attention to the new baby, maybe she doesn’t think her body is ready or maybe after you saw your wife push out this 6lb baby her “love below” isn’t too appealing to you anymore. I mean seriously she pushed out a whole baby and took it like a G and then she went on to smile afterwards and now she expects you to be ready cause she’s ready. Women: maybe he has gained/lost weight, maybe the last time you had sex he did something to turn you off and you can’t find the on switch or maybe you just had a baby, needed a few stitches to heal you and sex isn’t a priority to you. Maybe you want some alone time with yourself. There are a series of things that can come up as to why you and your mate aren’t having sex; however, the question is, while you wait for your mate, do indulge in a little pleasure time of your own?
To all my singles, those who have had sex before, what do you do to curve the appetite? How do you stay on your walk with Christ and keep your hands from wondering down below? To the virgins, has this ever been a thought? Have you ever submitted?
Well church, after doing some research here is what I found out:
There is no place in the bible that says masturbation is either good or bad. So I am assuming that in the bible days masturbation was not a concern for the people. However, there are several scriptures on perversion, adultery, adultery of the heart, sexual immortality, so on and so forth.
Matthews 5:27-30 (NKJV) “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to cast into hell.”
So, in this scripture alone lies a very deep question; can you masturbate without lust? Lets be honest, you are sexually frustrated because you have seem someone or something that aroused you. You want to release that energy off but can you do so without lusting? Can you masturbate without imagining it is Morris or Halle? The key to it is your imagination. The sin lies within your mind and your heart. Masturbation is just like drinking. Can you drink in moderation or do you find yourself getting intoxicated? If you can masturbate without lust then I would say go for it. However, before you drop those undies let me give you something else to think about.
Romans 14:12-13 (NKJV) “So then each of us shall give account of himself to God. Therefore let us not judge one another anymore but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother’s way.”
Ephesians 5:3-5 (NKJV) “But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.”
You have to makeup in your hearts today, whether or not masturbation pleases God. When you get to heaven do you believe in your heart that God will say well done? Is this little bit of alone time worth the uncertainty of this deed. God did create sex for a man and woman. What you do in your marriage bed is your business; however, let it be done with your spouse.
I know that after having years of sex that it is difficult to curve that appetite. And I will say masturbation is wrong and it is not the answer to your problem. Let me tell you something Sister Betty Jo, once you find your mate and you consummate the marriage, those urges will never go away. And how you can help yourself is by fasting and praying. In hard times my sister seek the Lord. That is what he wants us to do. Pray until something changes. Knowing a little of your past Sister Betty Jo, I can relate to you. Even though I am married, my husband doesn’t always “open the door when I knock”… LMBO!!! That’s code for he says no! The key to it is, having a willpower. When gives me that no, I drink a cup of water, mumble a few unkind things under my breath, I pray for forgiveness (for the unkind things I said), I also pray for peace and patience.
Sister Betty Jo you won’t make it on this journey without peace and patience. I am praying for you and I hope I was able to assist you and your question.
Listen church, this is one person’s opinion and my opinion came from reading, searching and believing what is right in my heart. Please come back tomorrow and I will finish this off. Until then y’all stay prayed up.
Much Love
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